Anxiety, Panic Attacks and Depression.

9th August 2016

This post is a very personal view of anxiety, panic attacks and depression but I hope that being open and honest about a subject that still has a stigma attached to it will help at least one person who reads it.


My Story

I have suffered from anxiety and related issues since I was a teenager. The chest pains. breathlessness, hot prickly feeling up my neck, shaking, dizziness and the feeling I was about to die became a regular occurrence in my life.  Following a personal traumatic event in my 20’s the symptoms increased at a terrifying rate and I found my life revolved around the unpredictable and relentless attacks.

At the time I was a mother of three young children under the age of seven and working part time. It was so difficult to carry on as normal without alerting anyone to my condition. I can remember struggling to do the school runs as I had bouts of agoraphobia which meant I was literally unable to leave the house. I lied and pretended to others that I had the flu, a twisted ankle, a migraine, in fact anything to divert the attention away from the real problem.

I’m ashamed to admit that I missed family functions, parties, meals out, school events, opportunities to travel, weddings and funerals because of this issue. And still I kept quiet. It was a lonely existence trapped with my own thoughts and fears. Inevitably, I was unable to share  my problem with my family, friends and work colleagues. I am certain over the years that I have lost good friendships and job opportunities because of this extreme anxiety. That makes me rather sad, not just for myself, but for others that I know suffer the same consequences because of this issue.

I worked in customer services which meant constant interaction with the public. This became a serious issue for me.  I not only was having frequent, unpredictable panic attacks but I had started to worry continually about the attacks happening. It became a never ending cycle of fear. And I lost my job.

I sought help half heartedly from my GP and at that time there was little help from the NHS. I read various self help books and I went for counselling, CBT and various other complimentary therapies. Some of these therapies worked for me but only for a short while.  CBT is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy which is a talking therapy which can help the way you think and behave. You are given techniques to try and stop the worrying and panic thoughts before they occur and cause you issues.  Rather than attempting to resolve past issues the therapist will help you work on dealing with current problems and thoughts should they arise. It worked a little for me ( although only for a short time ) and is definitely worth a try. Please remember I am not medically trained and everyone is different so please talk to your GP or Health Care Professional for more advice.




In early 2012 I returned again to my GP feeling desperate and deflated as I struggled again with social events and even the everyday shopping in our local town. Getting in my car and driving became a daily ordeal as I attempted to live a normal life through the ongoing panic symptoms. The symptoms worsened the further away from home I drove. Then one day I stopped driving. It was as though my mind and body had given up ( or given in.) I was faced with an overwhelming feeling that I didn’t want to leave my house ever again. And, for a few months I didn’t.

I managed to hide the issue from friends who slowly disappeared from my life. They were probably fed up with my never ending excuses and cancellation of days and nights out. I went out with my husband who was so patient and kind with me. I hated been away from home as the stress was too much and we actually cancelled our holiday that summer.

By the spring of 2013 I was slowly managing to visit local shops with my husband or friends who were very patient with me. Travelling anywhere alone was still a massive hurdle for me that I just couldn’t get over. And then something dreadful happened. My darling father died very suddenly and the shock was enormous. I struggled to cope with his passing and depression hit me hard, but more than that, I felt extreme guilt at the fact I had been unable to visit him regularly because of my anxiety. He lived an hour journey away from me and I am ashamed to admit that in those final months before he died I didn’t visit him because of my fear and inability to leave my house.

How do I feel about that now ? Absolutely terrible. I am still racked by overwhelming guilt and sadness that I didn’t get to see him as I wanted to. I can never get that time back now and I will forever carry round the guilt and regret.

Over the following two years my symptoms were still affecting my life. I could be feeling fine for a few days and then BANG…I would be overcome by a massive panic attack in the middle of Marks and Spencer’s and would run out feeling a failure yet again. By this stage I had resigned myself to a life of anxiety and all the mental health issues that I associated with it. After all, after thirty long years I thought this was it. ‘Grin and bear it’ don’t they say? Or ‘pull your socks up’ is another one I heard often.



So I toddled off to my GP again. I’m not sure why I went as I thought I knew what she would say. Or so I thought I did. I was (and still am) very lucky to have an amazing and supportive GP. She was kind and a great listener which I found many people don’t really do when faced with someone who has mental health issues. My doctor also came up with a suggestion that would change my life. She suggested Mindfulness, Meditation and Relaxation as a possible solution for my problem. Above all that day, she made me laugh. She made me realise that I was not going crazy. I was normal but with a few issues that were affecting my life.

Anxiety and Depression is NOT a failing or a weakness. It’s just something people have, like a broken leg or a cold. Whatever my GP said to me changed my whole perception of my issues. IT was just a little annoyance that I had to find a way of dealing with it to lessen its impact on my life. I left her surgery feeling energised and determined that I WOULD find a way through this. I will always remember her wise words ” Do NOT let this control your life. You MUST control IT” I arrived home clutching my piece of paper with just three words. MINDFULNESS, MEDITATION AND RELAXATION. I figured that if I could get my mind and body into a relaxed state, then the anxiety wouldn’t feature so highly in my life.



Oh and perhaps another crucial impact in my life happened in September 2015. I became a Nanna for the first time. There is nothing more heart warming than seeing your daughter holding her first child and realising that this tiny bundle of joy will become the incentive to lead a more peaceful and content life. I hate to write the word ‘normal’ but that’s how I felt. I wanted to be normal, to drive freely to visit my grandson. It was my biggest wish for him to experience the world with his Nanna, visit the park, animal farms, the seaside, family events, his birthday, school plays….oh the list goes on and on. My grandson became my pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. He was my reason to throw everything (including the proverbial kitchen sink) at this demon that had controlled my life for so long.

And that’s exactly what I did. With the help of my family and close friends I slowly started to emerge from this dark cloud. Support from your loved ones is crucial and should never be underestimated.


Mindfulness, Meditation & Relaxation

As for the Mindfulness, meditation and relaxation as suggested by my GP, yes, this was my biggest help. It improved my situation and I cannot praise it enough. I bought books and scrolled the internet looking for information and help but I just couldn’t make it work for me just by reading. Why ? Because I think my body and mind wasn’t relaxed enough to take it all in. I knew I needed to some how get my mind totally relaxed enough to take on board the suggestions.  Hypnotherapy was suggested by a friend as a possible way of helping me achieve this. I was honestly quite sceptical about this form of therapy, probably due to the hypnotists we see on TV nowadays.


Success with a Hypnotherapist

A local hypnotherapist was recommended and after a few sessions I noticed a huge difference in my outlook on life. I felt calmer and less anxious particularly in shops and crowded places. However when I had huge gaps in my appointments (bearing in mind these appointments were quite expensive) I noticed that my anxiety was creeping back a little. I realised that to keep it at bay I needed to be practising hypnotherapy and relaxation on a more regular basis. Every day in fact!

So I looked around for another solution and quite by accident I found IT! I read on the internet about a British Hypnotherapist called Glenn Harrold who was producing CD’s, books, and Phone Apps for Anxiety, Insomnia (something else I suffered from) and even Panic Attacks. He even produces an App for Mindfulness. So, for £2.99 I took the plunge and downloaded one of his Apps to my phone.

I immediately started listening to Glenn’s ‘ Overcome Anxiety’ session and within two days I noticed a difference. It really was that noticeable. There were no long, expensive therapy sessions and no added stress with finding a suitable therapist. It was just me and my phone and thirty minutes of my time. I would awaken from the sessions feeling relaxed and peaceful. I know ‘peaceful’ sounds dramatic but that’s how I felt.

Listening every day REALLY helped me. I downloaded other sessions that Glenn has recorded. My favourites are ‘Deep Sleep’ and ‘Mindfulness For Anxiety’ and not forgetting ‘Fear Of Flying’ which I will discuss in another post. My fear of flying definitely deserves a special post all on its own ! For more information on the work of Glenn Harrold and the full range of his CD’s from stopping smoking to weight loss to thinking positive to developing self confidence and much more please click here


And now?

So, where am I now in my life ? Well thanks to the hypnotherapy recordings by Glenn Harrold I can now drive to see my grandson which is a sixty minute round trip. I can go to the shops on my own and actually come out with some shopping instead of leaving it in a trolley, abandoned while I exit the store quicker than Usain Bolt. I still like to sit at the end of the aisle in a cinema or theatre, but I now actually watch the complete performance. Previously I had to leave my poor husband sat in his seat looking like Billy No Mates as I make a dash for the fire exit.

Yes, I still have my little ‘blips’ as I call them. But I now handle them differently. I float through the anxious moment. I let the panic rise over me and disappear, rather than reacting and fighting it. In my experience fighting makes it worse and only prolongs the sensations. As I feel the symptoms I hear Glenn’s voice in my head, “You are in control” and the panic symptoms subside and eventually leave. I listen to the recordings by Glenn every day to make sure I continually feel relaxed and stress free and this works for me.

If you are reading this and you suffer silently from anxiety, panic or depression then you have my sympathy and empathy. Please know that you are not alone. I know the worst thing is suffering in silence and trying desperately to keep your condition from friends and family. There is such a stigma attached to anyone living with mental health issues and its unfair and doesn’t help anyone.

You are no less valued than if you had a broken leg or flu. I get frustrated with society that treat this condition with such contempt. If only we could show compassion to those who suffer mental health issues instead of making them feel a lesser member of society. One of my biggest heartbreaks was telling a dear friend of my issues and she reacted really badly to my news. In fact she never visited me again or rang me and that was three years ago. Although devastated at first, I now believe our friendship was never meant to be.


You are not alone!

I hope that by writing this I can help at least one person to know that they are not alone. It may seem daunting and you wonder if you can ever get past this stage of never ending panic attacks and anxiety. I would say to you, never stop trying looking for a solution, whether that is CBT or hypnotherapy. The world is such a beautiful place and it would be a shame if we missed experiences because of this horrible affliction that affects so many people.

Please comment below. Let me know your thoughts and your own experiences. Has anxiety, panic or depression affected you personally or a member of your family ? If so, what worked for you ? I would love to hear from you.

I will leave you with one of my favourite quotes which I have on a post it note in my bedroom.

” Don’t cry over the past, it is gone. Don’t stress about the future, it hasn’t arrived. Live in the present and make it beautiful ”

With much love

Susanna x




13 responses to “Anxiety, Panic Attacks and Depression.”

  1. Nanna3 says:

    What a wonderful post!!
    I am suffering from travel/general anxiety at the moment. I don’t like car travel more than about 20 minutes so going far on holiday is impossible at the moment.
    I am having CBT and antidepressants, but not sure if CBT is helping yet. She has given me relaxation exercises too.
    My husband, friends and family who know are being supportive but I would like a magic wand to take my anxiety away!!
    Best wishes

    • Susanna says:

      I am so sorry you are suffering like this. I too wish I had a magic wand to wave and it would all go away for you. Please don’t give up. You CAN get through this. I had CBT and it initially helped and I received some good tips but I found it wasn’t sustainable for me. I also only received twenty sessions through the NHS and then I had to go private. I did try antidepressants some years ago but I had a bad reaction to them and stopped taking them and so I can’t comment on them.
      Have you thought about trying hypnotherapy ? I understand you may be sceptical and I know that feeling too well. I tried it because I was desperate and tired of feeling like I did. I can’t even honestly tell you what has happened but something has changed in me. I am generally more calm and relaxed, but more importantly I have my freedom back. I got fed up of clinging to my husband everywhere I went. You know the feeling ? The hypnotherapy is amazing and I would recommend it to anyone. Even if you are unsure its worth a try. I would love to know how you are getting on so please keep in touch.

      Best wishes
      Susanna xx

  2. Sandra Holmes says:

    proud of you my friend xx

  3. Liz says:

    Such a good post. Interesting read and helpful to those who are close to someone who suffers from anxiety.

  4. Michelle says:

    Thank you so much for sharing this Susanna. I think the more of us that share our fight with depression, anxiety, etc the more understanding there will be amongst non sufferers. Sharing something so personal takes a lot of courage ( I wonder how long your finger hovered over the ‘publish’ button). But know this brave lady; your courage will help others.
    Stay happy, and I hope your road to recovery continues.
    Michelle xxx

    • Susanna says:

      Aw Michelle. Thank you so much for such a lovely positive comment. You are SO right. I thought about not publishing the post many many times. In fact I wrote it months ago hoping when I started my blog I would actually be brave enough to publish it. I guess, like many people we hide behind our smiles and bubbly nature, but sometimes you reach a point where you think ‘ you know what…I’ve had enough of pretending and keeping this hidden from everyone ‘ I guess I reached that point. Thank you Michelle for taking the time to read it.
      Lots of love
      Susanna xx

  5. Linda C says:

    Hi Susanna
    Just discovered your blog, love it. Great that you write about many of the ‘issues’ many of us have – especially post 50s! Most other blogs make can make over 50s feel quite inferior as most of us do not have perfect lives but still want to look good, have lovely homes etc. I love reading other peoples thoughts and ideas, I don’t think we ever stop learning from others’ opinions and ideas! Im really interested in fashion and style post 50, as a still clothes addicted 65 yr old I love clothes so interested on your ideas of style!

    • Susanna says:

      Thank you Linda. Yes, I agree with you. Sometimes I almost feel like as over 50’s we are written off ! Like we are expected to stay at home watching daytime TV with our slippers on, doing very little else ! Haha. We both know this is not how we want to be. There are different challenges that we have over a ‘certain age’ like menopause, children leaving home, bereavement etc and I shall be writing about these soon. Blogs are great as you say, we can learn so much from others and their experiences. Thank you for taking the time to read my blog. I really appreciate it. Please keep popping back for updates and yes, I will be posting soon about what my fashion loves are.
      Best wishes. Susanna x

  6. Sacha says:

    Thank you for your words as they hit home.
    Im still walking on the road of recovery, but i can see the circle now. The cirlce of not feeling well, feeling drowned and empty, feeling guilt about all of this and than feeling more bad….it just never stops….so i quit.
    Im trying to love myself and to accept that im perfect in my inperfections. Everytime i hear the negative words again in my mind i try to stop and breathe…just breathe…think of the love of my kids….and it dissapears in yawning. Im not yet where i want to be, but at least now i can enjoy the scenery while on the road to happiness.

    • Susanna says:

      What a lovely, heartfelt post Sacha. I totally understand your feelings and I am glad that you are still looking forward, however difficult it can be at times. As long as we stay on that road and keep moving forward, then that surely is progress. Keep taking those breaths and keep thinking of the love of your children.

      Much love, Susanna xx

  7. Helen says:

    I actually just cried reading this. I know the guilt you felt for not seeing your dad as I felt the same with my Grandma, she didn’t approve of my relationship with Cora and so avoided seeing her and the day I saw her was the day she went into hospital to later passed away. I was very mad at myself and beat myself over not seeing her more or sooner. Thank you for sharing this. Your a wonderful person to share this.

    • Susanna says:

      Aw Helen. I’m so sorry that this happened to you. Its funny how things happen that set us off on a path that we didn’t intend to go down. I honestly don’t have the answer to make you or I feel better. I am not sure I will ever stop feeling regret over what I did or didn’t do. But I guess that we have to think that my dad and your grandma still loved us and wouldn’t want us to feel sad and guilty. They wouldn’t want us to spend the rest of our life continually feeling these bad thoughts. So we have to both keep remembering the good times with our loved ones and somehow try and forget how things ended. Difficult I know. Hope you are feeling well. Love to Cora. xx Ps Sorry about the delay in replying to this but my blog has had a technical issue and I have only just resolved it. xx

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