As we get older we become wiser and more thoughtful. OK, sometimes not wiser, but most definitely more thoughtful. As we reach mid age we start to look back at our past and wonder how we could have done things differently. Sometimes we are full of regret or even annoyance at the way things turned out.
However our life has progressed I am sure we can all find something negative, with a yearning to change what has happened. Well, we cannot change things, but this is a good time to re-evaluate our life. We can look at the GOOD things that have happened and to appreciate how blessed we have been. No matter how tough our life has been, we can all find good things that make us smile or bring us joy. I wrote recently about time passing quickly and how to cope with it, so if you missed it please click here
I have been thinking deeply about my own life recently and I decided that this post would be a good idea as a different way of looking back at things past. So, here are five things I would tell my younger self. I could, of course, have written one hundred things, but as space is limited and I don’t want you falling asleep, I thought I would limit it to just five.
1 – Look at life as an adventure. We only get one shot at life so it’s important we don’t become narrow minded with our dreams and hopes. It is easy to become complacent and procrastinate. Then time flies by and we are suddenly faced with limited time to explore new adventures. People write bucket lists when they are retired, but why ? Life is to be enjoyed at any age, so write that bucket list NOW. Don’t worry about the past or the future, just live in the present.
2 – If you want to do something but are held back by fear, then JUST DO IT ! We often limit ourselves by our own fears and consequently we never achieve our full potential. I have a terrible fear of flying and didn’t fly till I was 39 years old and even then it was under duress. As I arrived in Portugal on that warm sunny day, I remember been angry with myself that I had let my fear dictate where I travelled in the world. I had missed out on so many things ( and so had my children ) because of my fear of flying. Yes, I still have a fear of flying, but I grit my teeth, take a tablet and I go ! Why ? Because I am missing out on so many beautiful experiences if I don’t, and I refuse to let the fear dictate my life.
3 – Be adaptable. Life has a way of throwing up challenges and altering our planned path in life. From redundancy to sudden bereavement and other life events, we can find ourselves scared and worried about what the future may hold. During times like this we must breathe and take time out to adjust to our new life. If this is difficult for us then we must seek help to give us the strength to move forward. This is not a weakness, it is merely asking for support at a time when we need it most. Sometimes these changes are useful in making us see that perhaps there is an alternative life to the one we have been living. Embrace the change and just see how strong you really are.
4 – Always appreciate good family and friends. Having a good support network is crucial in life and without it we would never flourish. Don’t take people for granted as one day they may not be there. Always be kind and treat people how you would wish to be treated. Tell your loved ones that you love them. If you don’t have a good support network then actively seek one. Yes, you may have to look for new friends but age is no limit to forming new friendships. Join new clubs, groups and find like minded friends that will make you feel supported and loved.
5 – Work hard and be determined to be in the job that you love. Chase your dreams and make them a reality. If you are working in an office 9-5 but you long to be self employed, then work out a plan to get you there. Look at re training or returning to adult education classes. Just because you didn’t get super duper exam results doesn’t mean you cannot be successful in life. You will be working a long time so make sure you love the job you are in and make sure it is the job YOU love, not the job your parents or friends expect you to do !
So there are just a few ideas for what I would tell my younger self. Of course there are so many more and I am could probably write a book on the subject ! Maybe that is not a bad idea ?
So please comment below and let me know what YOU would tell your younger self. I hope this post has made you thoughtful about your own life. AND remember it is NEVER too late to have the life you want. No matter how old you are, it is never too late to chase your dreams and embark on new adventures ! So, let me know if you have any dreams that you intend on pursuing.
Until next time dear friends